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Jun. 6th, 2005 10:18 amI'm starting to train to walk a marathon in October, a fundraiser for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society. Every other Saturday will be spent training with the group. Last Sat. was our first group training exercise, at Chrissy Field. I hardly ever go to SF - it always seems too crowded, too hard to find parking, etc. etc. but I almost always have a really good time once I'm there. Note to self: if/when it's really hot in your county, it's probably gong to be breezy and cool along Chrissy Field, and if you go early in the day, there's a ton of parking, not that many people, and it only takes 15 minutes to get there.
Sunday was an awesome wedding celebration party for my ex and his new wife that they put on themselves in their backyard. They've been together for just over 11 years now. R. made all the food and hired the daughters of friends to be waitstaff. It was a lovely afternoon. Old friends who I hadn't seen in a decade came to the party and it was marvelous to see them and catch up. H's son is in his 30's now (!!!) and engaged. It was fabulous to catch up with him and oh, lots of people, including 2 sets of old friends who came up from LA for the event.
One person expressed some surprise. I don't think of it much except to be pleased and proud that we are all friends. H is an all around good guy, and when he's with someone, he's with someone. He's only been a serial monogamist. When I started dating him, and first met all his friends, the core of the group of his friends was his ex, A and her family, with whom he moved to Calif. from Fla. Yesterday, she and I and her sisters got together to catch up on the stuff we don't email about. We've all genuinely stayed friends. I don't really understand acrimonious breakups. My oldest sister and my brother had horrible divorces, with kids, custody, money, court battles for years, even adoption by a subsequent spouse coming up. It baffles me. There's so much to be gained by staying friends! Even if the relationship doesn't work out for the long term, the person is still the person they were when you met them, and you wouldn't be with someone who wasn't a decent person to start with! Maybe we're all just lucky. Dunno. Maybe it's being willing to let go of certain things but keep the good stuff. Anyway, I had a marvelous time, it was a wonderful party, I'm happy for them both, glad to be friends with them and see lots of old friends on a joyous occasion.
Sunday was an awesome wedding celebration party for my ex and his new wife that they put on themselves in their backyard. They've been together for just over 11 years now. R. made all the food and hired the daughters of friends to be waitstaff. It was a lovely afternoon. Old friends who I hadn't seen in a decade came to the party and it was marvelous to see them and catch up. H's son is in his 30's now (!!!) and engaged. It was fabulous to catch up with him and oh, lots of people, including 2 sets of old friends who came up from LA for the event.
One person expressed some surprise. I don't think of it much except to be pleased and proud that we are all friends. H is an all around good guy, and when he's with someone, he's with someone. He's only been a serial monogamist. When I started dating him, and first met all his friends, the core of the group of his friends was his ex, A and her family, with whom he moved to Calif. from Fla. Yesterday, she and I and her sisters got together to catch up on the stuff we don't email about. We've all genuinely stayed friends. I don't really understand acrimonious breakups. My oldest sister and my brother had horrible divorces, with kids, custody, money, court battles for years, even adoption by a subsequent spouse coming up. It baffles me. There's so much to be gained by staying friends! Even if the relationship doesn't work out for the long term, the person is still the person they were when you met them, and you wouldn't be with someone who wasn't a decent person to start with! Maybe we're all just lucky. Dunno. Maybe it's being willing to let go of certain things but keep the good stuff. Anyway, I had a marvelous time, it was a wonderful party, I'm happy for them both, glad to be friends with them and see lots of old friends on a joyous occasion.